Fail To Prepare. Prepare To Fail. How To Set Goals The Right Way

Grand Cayman - Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

Apparently, the second Friday of January is when your New Year resolutions tank. Have yours?

Instead, learn how to leverage the power of psychology to hit your goals using the C.A.R.E.™ framework. I use evidence-based techniques taken from Western psychology mixed with Eastern practices.

C.A.R.E.™ takes the stress out of hitting your goals and a total grind for your untapped potential.

As someone who spent 29 years planning for corporate executives and leaders I’ve realised structure is key to fulfilling your goals. Helping clients achieve something within 28 days that would’ve taken them a decade alone is a huge deal. 

Think of C.A.R.E.™ as a shortcut to success—a way to bypass the obstacles and roadblocks standing in your way and quantum leap into a future filled with abundance and joy. 

🎯 Gain Clarity: Understand the bigger picture and uncover hidden truths about your life’s journey.

🔮 Receive Guidance: Get personalised advice and direction tailored to your unique situation.

🧘‍♀️ Find Peace: Say goodbye to anxiety and stress by gaining insight into your future.

💪 Empowerment: Take control of your destiny with newfound confidence and assurance.

By using:

● Mindfulness-based Coaching

● Habit Stacking

● Goal Setting Coaching

To:

● Reprogramme Old Stories

● Rewire Your Mindset

Stop second-guessing and start living a life of clarity and purpose. Book your⭐Clarity Call⭐ today and step into the future with confidence.

What’s the one obstacle that trips you up when aiming for your goals?

In a world where many coaches offer surface-level solutions. The mindset coaching inside C.A.R.E.™ is not about quick fixes or one-size-fits-all all strategies. It delves deep into exploring the underlying beliefs, patterns & behaviours that shape how you think and act.  

By reframing perspectives, techniques allow clients to shift their perceptions, turning negative experiences into opportunities for growth. This powerful reframing can radically alter how you view challenges and setbacks and access positive emotional states at will. 

Your mindset is where your big breakthroughs (or demise) begin. It’s easy to fool yourself into thinking you’re doing something different, but it’s just a different version derived from the same limited thinking.

You can find the C.A.R.E.™  framework inside my⭐VIP Experience⭐. 

Don’t live another year of regret. 

🚨Stop postponing happiness waiting for someday. Happiness isn’t something you “achieve” later. It happens now.

🚨Stop chasing “when” goals: (“I’ll be happy when I…”). Be happy now.

🚨Celebrate small wins. Don’t wait for “big wins” to feel successful.

Success is a feeling. What feelings are you chasing?  

There’s no refund on time. Every second wasted is a second off your life. So why piecemeal together a solution when you can get a full service?

Ready To Hustle? The Quiet Revolution Shaking Corporate Boardrooms

Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

I need to share something important with you. 

There’s a quiet revolution happening in corporate boardrooms across the world, smart women are seeing something that changes everything. 

Remember when having a corporate career meant job security, and your future was safe? Well, that’s disappearing fast. 

I learned this the hard way. Despite my corporate success, I was made redundant 3 times during my 29-year career, feeling more trapped than secure, fearing the next round of restructuring.

But that struggle led me to discover something fascinating. The same skills that make you valuable within your corporate role, they’re worth so much more when you use them differently. Now here’s what no one tells you, it isn’t one or the other. 

You don’t have to choose between security & freedom. You don’t have to risk everything to build something of your own. 

Did you know women over the age of 40 are now the fastest-growing business demographic?  

Like my client below who’s in her 40s.

“As I prepare to leave my profession and pursue my coaching business, Koser provided me with easily actionable steps to make the transition pain-free which I wouldn’t have been able to imagine before! More than that she inspires a great deal of confidence in you and your choices as you know that her assessments are as honest and knowledgable as she is. I left our time together with an actionable plan, feeling inspired and confident, having had great fun too!”

The smartest women I know are taking a different approach. They’re following a proven path that lets them build real security without sacrificing what they’ve already achieved.  

Think about it, isn’t it time you turned your corporate experience into something that’s truly yours, something that gives you real security & not just the illusion of it. Something that isn’t just based on external factors, or the next merger. 

Forbes did a survey about side hustles. A third of people that took part in that survey were actually professionals and corporates looking to make extra money. People are realising that there’s more to life than just working for 5 days a week to have 2 days of freedom.

When I look back at my career I’m blown away on how far the power of self belief can take you. I never imagined I’d be running my own company in my 50s.

Discover how ambitious women are building real security in 2025. I’ll show you exactly how to leverage your experience into something powerful.

How To Get Spiritually Fit And Hit Your Goals The Safe, Sane & Soulful Way

Bali yoga - Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

There’s something a lot of people don’t know about me.

I have a deep spiritual side that keeps me sane and feeling safe. 

A few years back, when I was going through a dark period and conventional ways weren’t    working, I took a more holistic approach to life by tapping into my feminine energy to solve my deepest darkest problems and find direction again.

Now if getting spiritually fit isn’t on your list of Things To Do in 2025, because it feels ‘too out there’, here’s a reframe for you.

1. Embodying Your Best Self

It’s about stepping into the healthiest, strongest version of yourself, connecting mind, body, and soul.

2. Aligning Your Goals With What Is Right And True For You

Living a truer version of you with more integrity is a game-changer when it comes to the choices you make. Ensuring that you’re putting your efforts in the right directions, places, people and projects. Discernment is delish.

3. Raising Your Vibration

When you’re tapped in, your vibration rises, you elevate your energy, and that higher vibration attracts positivity, abundance and joy into your life.

Is It Time To Come Home To You?

How about letting your intuition guide your growth this year and lead you to opportunities that perfectly align with what you are on this earth to do?

Reconnect with your most trusted life partner—your intuition—at the most productive levels and achieve unparalleled personal and professional growth in 2025.

The meaning of the word ‘intuition’ comes from the Latin meaning ‘to be taught from within’.

Once you start trusting your instinct everything changes and every strategy works.

‘Be realistic’ is a concept sold to tame the masses. Intuition takes you from invisible to invincible, from pressure to power, from commodity to outlier.

Synchronicity 

The more you’re in tune with your intuition the more in sync you become with life and the evidence? The amount of synchronicities that start to show up in your life.   

This idea of synchronicity means that we have to trust there is more to our lives than what we experience on a physical level. We need to be willing to look at the bigger picture, accepting and having confidence in the fact that there is more to our experiences than meets the eye.

Being open to synchronicity also means that we have to understand that our lives are filled with both positive and negative events. Once we can recognise that one event is neither more desirable nor better than the other—they all have a purpose in our lives—then we are truly ready to listen to the messages the universe gives us.

Soft Power

Are you keeping your intuition under lock and key?   

I have certainly learned a lot about how to soften and how to own my power, learning the way of the feminine. Difficult when you’re a driven high achiever. However, cultivating a bond of undeniable trust in yourself ties in with my love of coaching women on feminine leadership. It’s a game-changer on how to navigate power struggles within yourself (and others).

But you don’t need to suffer for years on end, like I did, to see insane results. The VIP Experience is designed to give you a year’s worth of results in only 4 short weeks. One year is tiny in the lifespan of your life. 

Your intuition is your North Star. If you don’t want your 2025 goals to head south, reclaim your headspace and gain some clarity and focus with the VIP Experience. 

How To Bring In Next Level Opportunities

Two things can’t occupy the same space. Fear makes you tight and compressed. Intuition feels light, expansive and detached.

You have to clear the gunk for your intuition to thrive – so which do you choose, fear or trust?

We work on one goal, with a clear intention using the deep dive magic of the D.I.V.A.™ framework to clear the cache of your mind so your intuition can breathe. It’s all about creating space for flow to work its magic. 

What’s your big goal for the next 90 days?

One client’s reaction to D.I.V.A.™

“When you said to me ”you need to realign your expectations quite spectacularly Jane” – it just floored me 🤯”. 

There’s a difference between wanting to live positively and spiritual bypassing when you refuse to acknowledge your feelings.

You can’t fool the universe, so pretending to be happy when you’re sad will get you nowhere. Rather, you need to deal with your feelings.

Great leaders are great at being led. I’ve got my next two mentors lined up.

Have you?

Don’t Be Vanilla   

In a world of so many people and organisations trying to teach us ‘from without’, it can be overwhelming and disempowering trying to follow other peoples’ strategies and ideas.

Back in 2016, I had a great awakening. What followed was the birth of Koser 2.0. And just like giving birth to anything, it was painful.

I was sceptical of bringing my spirituality into my new vocation—worried it would harm my credibility. But in not doing so I was denying a big part of who I am. And to validate this further, I got a nudge from the universe—‘be more polarising’. Oh boy, did that trigger me. Young corporate Koser would be screaming!

So I looked around the coaching space and wondered how to bring spirituality to the workplace in an evocative way. My bespoke frameworks D.I.V.A.™ and C.A.R.E.™ do just that by providing a high-level client experience tailored just for you.

That upgrades your vibe and downgrades fear and stress. It’s a beingness. It’s such a simple change, but it makes everything feel just a bit more intentional, a bit more elevated.

I love teaching and coaching on what spirituality is in real, everyday life. How to live a more purposeful life by bringing out your true essence. And how powerful you really are when it comes to manifesting your goals and desires.

It was on the back of an intuitive hunch that I started my coaching business—and I’m very much living my life on purpose. In fact, so much so, my work lights me up that work no longer feels like work, it’s just an extension of who I am. Imagine that. The best coaches are those who have walked the path.

And why, I love seeing people awaken to their truth about what it means to them. When someone has that lightbulb moment, it’s contagious and addictive. 

That’s why when you work with me it’s a very unique experience.

If your life needs to feel ‘more a part of you’, apply for a Clarity Call. Click the button.

Come play with me and find out just how powerful you are.

Quitter’s Day – Don’t Become A New Year Resolution Statistic

Bali Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

LET’S GO, BABY!!!

Booking Open! The VIP Experience 

January 10th is Quitters Day, yep when your ill-fated New Year resolutions tank.

But you’re not that person. You’ve got nine days to not become a statistic.  

My crystal ball tells me big shifts are coming, both in your life and career.

What’s the ONE goal you want to hit in the next 90 days?

Jam with me about your biz / career / life and let’s do 2025 BIG.

I thought I’d shoot this over to you in case you want to snag a private consulting / coaching / mentoring session with me as a new year’s gift to yourself. Heck, why not?

In case you have no idea what ⭐The VIP Experience⭐ is, it’s a 2.5 hour private consulting party with me, online, where I help you brainstorm whatever the hell you want my help brainstorming, plan whatever you want my help planning, give you the confidence in whatever you’re feeling a little gun shy about when it comes to starting that new biz, contemplating a career move, reinventing yourself in 2025, doing a full 180, or just talking through whatever you’re stuck on. Hey, it happens to all of us!

In this deep dive session, I’ll help you make important decisions on which ideas to pursue in 2025, convince you to do the thing you secretly want to do but are lacking confidence to do.

Bring me all your WTFery and we will sort it OUT and get you your swagger back.💃

You’ve got 365 days ahead of you. Make every single one count. Leave no potential untapped.

Hope to get to know you in a sesh! 

P.S. 

1. I’ll give you a plan so you know what to focus on.

2.I’ll give you all the support that you need so that you don’t get stuck.

3. I’ll hold you to a higher standard than you hold yourself to.  

If you want one, now’s the time.

And it all starts with a Clarity Call. Click the button.

I adore you, happy new year!!!

Girls Who Lift Weights Are Goal Crushers | How To Use Pain To Drive Your Goals 

Weights - Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

The new year is the perfect time to set bold goals and surround yourself with the people who can help you achieve them that support your growth and impact.

Let’s create a movement of F.I.T. women—Female Inspired Transformation. For aspiring and experienced female leaders. You Were Made For More.

Today was gym day. And as a diehard lipstick-loving gymshark.

I want to help break the stigma of going to the gym and the health benefits of strength training for women. Because getting fit is at the top of most people’s New Year’s hit list.

After all, your health is your wealth. So whatever your fitness struggle be it:

  • a battle of the bulge
  • lose the mum tum
  • it’s all menopause and muffin tops
  • shed those hideous bingo wings 
  • or cellulite has a stranglehold on you 

There is no pain greater than achieving a fitness goal. What give up carbs? Learn about nutrition? Count macros?!

Health and fitness goals are one of the hardest to crush. They require drive, discipline, determination and consistency, it’s a killer right!?

Because why would you knowingly put yourself through physical pain? We weren’t born to exercise. As hunters and gatherers, we eat to survive, period.

The Pros of Getting Gym Fit

● The before and after shots to die for.

● The nod of approval from fellow gym goers when your transformation doesn’t go unnoticed.

I once had a bodybuilder dude come up to me after a year of training and he said I’d lost weight and that I was fat before (I wasn’t) he had just noticed my before and after.

● The ugly gym face you’re allowed to pull.

● That post-workout feeling, and endorphin rush that lasts all day. 

● That laser-sharp focus that puts you in your zone of genius, where you produce your best work. With intuitive hits and inspirational downloads on tap, you’d think you had been sprinkled with fairy dust.

The Newbie On The Gym Floor 

FEAR OF FAILURE OR SUCCESS?

People prefer the certainty of their current situation rather than the uncertainty of change. Success can make us more visible when we sometimes feel safer staying out of the public eye.

● Folks give you the side eye in the aerobics studio because you don’t know your left from your right, and all you seem to do is get in everyone’s way. Even though you’re already hiding in the back row.

● Painful school memories of PE lessons come flooding back stirring up all your insecurities.

The physical and psychological pain would put anyone off their gym game.

A Lesson in Consistency

It’s more of a mental game than a physical one.

For example, how to hold a 60-second plank without face planting the floor. 

● Mon – start at 30-seconds 

● Tue – add on 5 seconds  

● Wed – add on 5 seconds  

● Thur – add on 5 seconds  

● Fri – add on 5 seconds  

● Sat – add on 5 seconds  

● Sun – add on 5 seconds. Goal reached.

Rinse and repeat. 

Apply this strategy to walking, running, cycling, swimming and ALL your 2025 goals.

You climb a mountain one stone at a time.

Arbitrary long-term goals are not motivating. You need to find something that moves you NOW. Short-term goals are how you get motivated and start to develop discipline.

Achieving the goal isn’t the goal. Learning about your limitations while you pursue the goal, is the goal. This is how you get stronger, fitter, faster.

Mental Health Needs Physical Support

Going to the gym is part of your life because you don’t just go to the gym, get lean and then all of a sudden stop. It’s an integral part of your whole life.  

Take inventory on the way you relate to your body and how you relate to your work. Notice any similarities.

A lot of our food shame and eating habits stem from our childhood, especially for girls.

Everything from:

  • comfort eating 
  • yo-yo dieting
  • counting calories  
  • under eating
  • over eating
  • binge eating and every other kinda eating  

I ping-ponged from under eating (body shame issues as a teen); to eating out of boredom (trying to fill a void within); to eating for the sake of it, because I had the belief there wasn’t enough food / it would run out (linked to the money belief of there’s not enough).

Playing The Long Game 

Adopt a lifestyle change. Because why should fitness be a total buzzkill?

Here are some of the health benefits of working out: 

  • Get Fitter, Leaner + Stronger and more confident 
  • Increased Energy and Focus throughout the day
  • Better Sleep and Recovery
  • Significantly Decrease Your Stress Levels
  • Lose Weight Without Losing Joy  

My physical transformation goes far beyond the walls of the gym. The entire experience has been about building mental fortitude and physical discipline, which carries over into everything.

I got into the shape of my life—hiked to Everest BC and climbed a mountain at 50 AND maintained that fitness level five years later.

My Favourite Kind of BarBarbells

Strength training is the BEST cellulite buster out there. Because muscle EATS fat. If that’s not an incentive enough I don’t know what is!

It not only protects your joints and ligaments as you age, it staves off osteoporosis and increases cognitive function. Strength training actually makes you smarter.

Pumping iron isn’t just for the weights either—your heart does it every day. In 2025, make a pact to work as hard for your heart as it does for you. 

So, girls, it’s time to get your sweat on. Just think of those juicy glutes, smooth thighs, killer abs and sculpted arms just waiting to emerge, ready for bikini season ooh in about five months…

You Don’t Need Motivation Or WillpowerYou Need A Reason 

Picture this: it’s 5 am on a cold dark December morning the alarm goes off, it’s gym day, but you’re all snuggled up in your goose down.

Imagine this: it’s now 7 am. It’s light, the sun is out but you’ve missed your gym slot because you pressed snooze instead.

Then this happens: it’s 11 am and you’re starting to feel angsty and guilty because you’re kicking yourself for not working out when you had the time. If only…

Nobody wants to jump out of bed at 5 am but compare the short-term feeling of comfort to what you would feel later in the day because you didn’t work out (if you’re anything like me, irritable AF). 

Which would you rather feel? Short-term comfort vs all-day mood swings? 

We’d make more progress if we spent less time negotiating and bargaining with ourselves and just did the damn thing.

Exercise is meant to be fun even if it gets spicy at times, this is how you get fitter and stronger for longer. It’s not meant to be torture.  

If you’re not choosing this, what are you choosing? A tub of Ben & Jerry’s on the couch?

In the slogan immortalised by Nike, Just Do It!

Discipline For High Performance  

My biggest business breakthrough? Learning that self-care isn’t just about wellness it’s a high-performance tool and it starts with discipline.

Discipline isn’t punishment, it’s a choice. It breeds consistency and creates good habits that become unbreakable. And an absolute necessity if you want to perform at a high level.

It has taught me to get out of my head, to consistently show up every day and streamlined my thinking process when it comes to my business. 

For the woman who wants to perform at a high level. Who wants to get fit, stay fit, remain lean, be strong. You’re not creating a fit body you’re embodying a new identity.  

Being in shape raises your self-worth and confidence. So you can ask for that pay rise, go for that promotion, increase your fees, speak up at that meeting.

Being healthy allows you to have more time and energy because you’ve honed in on your values and your non-negotiable boundaries. 

Now that I’ve got you all fired up with your fitness goals, what about the rest of your life?

The Ultimate Goal Setting Strategy

Coaching is a transformative journey that can change your life by helping you achieve your deepest goals and desires.

The VIP Experience is your chance to join me for an incredible year of opportunities.

Now I get it you might not want to climb a mountain or do a high altitude trek, because you do you, right? Or guarantee results like mine.

But what I can guarantee.

I’ll show you exactly how you can design your life, how to stay on track with whatever bold and audacious goals you have and make you fall in love with your life all over again.

I’m here to keep you accountable, guide you in overcoming obstacles, and help you get into alignment with your true purpose.

There’s something so motivating about putting skin in the game. Those who are fully invested and committed get better results.

Do You Trust Me With Your Goals and Dreams?

Some goals can seem so BIG and overwhelming that we give up before we even try. We don’t feel in control, fearful for our future. 

The VIP Experience takes the stress of figuring it all out on your own when you’re already juggling so much. Because you don’t have the time, energy or bandwidth to go looking for the answers.

My resume reads like a rollercoaster of dreams. I use my own C.A.R.E ™ framework to achieve my goals. And I invite you to do the same.

Think about this…

What if changing your approach to goals was the key to growth instead of massive effort?

Without stress or having to micromanage. And without external events creating anxiety.

This is your cheat code to clear your blocks and attract the life you want.

This way of living exists and you can see big changes within 28 days inside the VIP Experience.

It all starts with doing life from a “flow” state.

It’s that state of being where:

● You’re fully present and your intuition is supercharged.

● You’re not bogged down by fear of failing.

● Opportunities flow in, even when you’re not trying.

It’s an unprecedented Mentor experience that allows you to slip into flow easily and stay there, so you can…

● Ditch what’s not working and upgrade the rest.

● Tune in to your deepest truths and wisdom.

● Adopt a prosperity perspective no matter what.

● Break industry norms and be on the leading edge.

Don’t miss this occasion to transcend your plateau and struggles.

So if you’re SICK AND TIRED OF BEING SICK AND TIRED of not hitting your goals and your motivation, like your metabolism, took a vacation without you, find out how High Performance Coaching can help take you to new levels. My inbox is open.

You deserve the best body and life possible. And I’m here to help you achieve it. I can’t wait to see what you’ll accomplish on the inside!

Twelve Days of Christmas | 12 High Performance Tips To Get You Through The Holidays

12 Days of Christmas - Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

Let the Countdown Begin!

While Mariah Carey makes her annual comeback…and to survive the madness…here are ⭐12 High Performance Habits⭐ to keep you sane this holiday season, your health in peak condition and your goals on track so you don’t turn into The Grinch! All the while making your life approximately 100 times easier and your demeanour 150 times pleasanter as you sip on a cocktail of happy hormones ready for the big day. 🎅

Unlock 12 days of science-backed, psychology-based habits that will have you hitting your 2025 goals faster, so much so that you may have to set a few more as you surpass milestone after milestone. 

🧠THE NEURAL RESET: YOUR FIRST 21 DAYS OF 2025 MAPPED OUT

Science shows it takes 21 days to form new neural pathways.

January isn’t just about the post-holiday blues – it’s when the brain’s neuroplasticity peaks, making people most receptive to change. So the first 21 days of the year are critical. 

We’ll use this window to rewire your brain for success. Learn how to leverage the psychology of fresh starts and the brain’s natural goal-pursuit mechanisms to create unstoppable momentum.

As we dive into the neuroscience of habit formation and learn how to build habits that become as automatic as breathing.

👉Stack the tips daily. Just like the Christmas carol: The Twelve Days of Christmas, or if you’re a gymshark like me: the HIIT Accumulator (IYKYK), to form healthy habits by the time the turkey’s out of the oven! 

💪Guaranteed outcomes (if you do all 12 habits daily for 21 days):

• Clear mind 

• Regulated emotions

• Balanced life 

• Inner peace

Head into 2025 with a winners mindset. Radical self-care isn’t just about wellness. It’s a high-performance tool. Make it your non-negotiable. Your success depends on it and it starts here. 

Day 1: Move It!! 🏃‍♀️

On the first day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

I love “run-rise” the stillness before the world wakes up (and the dog walkers). Frost fresh, 5 am starts, set you up for the day. 

Starting tomorrow morning, do 20 minutes of exercise before starting your day. Run, walk, yoga. To get your dopamine dose for the day.

Day 2: Exhale 🧘‍♀️

On the second day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Breath control is a total game-changer it regulates your central nervous system and your flight, fight or freeze response in stressful situations.

Box breath: favoured by Navy SEALs and yogis alike. If you’re in the kitchen feeling like a pressure cooker, taken hostage by all the planning & prepping. 

Do 60 seconds of box breathing. Close your eyes, imagining breathing along the 4 sides of a box:

4 counts in

4 counts hold 

4 counts out

4 count hold. 

Repeat. 

Day 3: Love Note To Self 😍

On the third day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Write a list of the top 5 things you’ve accomplished this year that you’re super proud of, big or small, work or personal.

If you’re feeling undervalued and your self-worth takes a knocking. Did they like the gift I gave them? Do they love/hate me for it? Did I put on a good spread? Go read that list and remind yourself how great you are.  

Day 4: You Sweet Thing 😘

On the fourth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Leave a love note in your kids lunch boxes, your partner’s jacket pocket or text a friend. Tell them 3 things you appreciate about them, be it their quirkiness, values, or the little things they do that bring you joy. Be specific. 

We can at times take people for granted because they’re always there. There are those of us who  have lost loved ones at Xmas. Love your tribe hard because you don’t know how long they’re going to be around.

Day 5: Nature’s Medicine 🌲

On the fifth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Nature is the new corner office. Spend 20 minutes outdoors come rain or shine. Forest bathing isn’t a woo woo fad. Go find some green space. Nature teaches us to live in the now and to be mindful of our moments.

I learnt this valuable lesson when trekking in the Himalayas. You can’t plan more than half a day in advance, as nature’s mood is extremely unpredictable and the environment can be quite challenging. Just like life. 

We need to be mega adaptable to changes to the plan and go with what is feasible and appropriate for that particular moment. 

Day 6: Get Your OM On 🧘‍♀️

On the sixth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Future Worrying: Tomorrow’s problems, stealing today’s peace.

Noone will stop loving you if your souffle falls flat, if your pie has a soggy bottom or things don’t go to order on Xmas Day. 

Set a timer for 5 minutes and meditate for peace of mind. Sit still, close your eyes and focus on your mind’s eye (the space between the eyes).

Meditation is about observing your thoughts, not clearing them. It can create calm and patience for busy people with busy minds (me). Quiet reflection can improve focus, reduce stress, and boost problem-solving skills.

These moments of solitude are the space where your thoughts get a chance to breathe, your creativity blossoms and clarity bubbles up.   

Keep your moments quiet shhh.

Day 7: It’s An Inside Job 🧘‍♀️

On the seventh day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Explore your inner landscape. How are you feeling this morning? 

You got to have your feelings. Let them be there. Only this morning I had to grieve a little bit – as a flood of memories came rushing back, so I cried some.

Your emotions are valid and they need permission to be felt, which will improve your empathy and compassion skills, making you less reactive. So when *that* family member, who rubs you up the wrong way, comes around you’ll be less tempted to b*tch slap them with a drumstick.

Have a conscious conversation with yourself and release those feelings with these journal prompts: write, draw or doodle whatever comes up.

How am I truthfully feeling right now?

What’s the trigger?

Why is that stressful?

And just remember, anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: 

“Something is important here; otherwise, I wouldn’t be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want?” And then simply turn your attention to what you do want.

Learn the language of your body to find inner peace and calm. 

Day 8: Rampage of Appreciation 👏

On the eighth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Gratitude is a powerful frequency-shifter with its high vibration. It can help you find new perspectives to bad situations, quickly lift your mood and get you out of a funk in a nanosecond. 

No Xmas bonus? Going through a rough patch at home? Work problems? Holiday blues, feeling sad, alone or lonely? Missing loved ones? 

Keep a daily gratitude journal and list 20 things you’re grateful for, including your problems. Where there were once obstacles you’ll see solutions and options you didn’t even know existed.

Anytime you want to change the way you feel and, at the same time, accelerate your life by attracting things you love, do a love rampage by picking out and listing all the things you love.

Day 9: Bounce Like Beyonce💃

On the ninth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Shake that booty!!

When you have too much anxious energy crawling through your body. Put on your earbuds and your favourite song and move. 

Because anxiety lives in the body, and not in the mind, you can’t discharge it by overanalyzing your thoughts. So shake what your mama gave you.  

When you listen to what your body is saying, by learning its unique language, and respond to it with safety, your mind will stop creating false narratives and limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in what feels like painful realities.

Stress is created in the mind that shows up as anxiety in the body. Know the difference and learn how to manage each one to forge a better mind/body connection. 

Day 10: H2O 💦

On the tenth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Poor Fuel Choices: What you eat & drink affects how you cope with stress.

Cut back on the coffee, energy drinks and junk carbs, instant gratification = long-term health issues. 

Drink 2 litres of water daily. Your brain is made up of 75% water, it uses up 20% of the energy you put into your body even though it is only 2% of your body mass. 

Give it what it needs to keep your focus sharp and the headaches at bay.

Day 11: Future Focused 😎

On the eleventh day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Before the world wakes up, sit down and journal for 15 minutes on your top 3 goals for 2025.  

1 work 

1 personal 

1 fun

Underneath each one write ONE action step you’re going to take TODAY. 

That’s only 3 action steps per day and you’ll have a better start to 2025 than most.

Day 12: Get Support 🙏

On the twelfth day of Christmas, Koser’s tip to me is…

Talk about it. You don’t have to figure everything out on your own. A problem shared is no longer a burden. 

If you’re struggling mentally, physically or emotionally. If you’re looking for direction or need to make a life-changing decision. Hire a mentor who can take you out of your negative mindset and “safe” strategies and move you from survival to growth.

You are the best investment you’ll ever make. Know your options and take them with kindness and not with shame or blaming. 

Life-changing decisions make your life better even though it might feel scary at the time. In those situations, a simple mindset flip can help: view the fear as excitement. Start to embody a new way of living. Lock in daily habits that match the person you want to be. Real change comes from identity shifts.

Sometimes the simplest things can change your entire world. I hope these Short Life Lessons built for Long-Term Success are your go-to’s every holiday season and beyond.

And finally, your support has been the icing on my Christmas cake this year.

I hope you have a holiday season as fabulous as you are. 🎉🎉🎉

Hello 2025. New Year. New You!! 💋

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I’m Calling It. The Theme For  2025 Is Slow Living & Good Vibrations

Cambodia - Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

Big Ideas. Bold Predictions & Badass Moves for the next 12 months.

What feels good is going to be IN. And, this is a huge opportunity for us all in 2025 to reset the way we show up for our lives, careers and our people.

It’s time to have FUN! With your personal and professional development. And there’s no better way to have fun than to learn how to add humour, personality, and levity to your leadership style. It makes everything more enjoyable—for you, your clients and your loved ones.

And how integrating a holistic approach to your leadership style can explode your income, impact and influence. 

When I teach and coach on Feminine Leadership I show you how to lead with personality and charisma for a captive audience—and that’s a promise.

Because you wish your personality came out more. You’re tired of corporate speak invading your every sentence. You have things to say but are having trouble getting them out. You overthink every word. And all you want is your delivery to be memorable, stylish, voicey, and interesting.

Mic drop: you can be professional AND have personality. I once worked for an Australian, who had bags of personality and was a damn good lawyer (still is)!

Slow Living

  • working smarter  
  • less hustle
  • radical self-care 

Working Smarter 

Achieving goals the sane, safe and soulful way

I’m not here to show you how capable you are, I’m here to amplify what you already have.

This is why I developed the C.A.R.E.™ framework. I had a look around the coaching space and most of it is meh and vanilla. Whereas C.A.R.E.™ takes your goals from beige to brilliant. The framework breaks down the 4 core areas of goal setting you need to get focused on to succeed and fulfil your potential. 

The Energy of Slow Flow

Nowadays, not only am I working from home…I’m also working with the comfort and security of knowing my career is untouchable by outside forces. Be it the crazy hours I worked in corporate or the hell I put myself to reach burnout.

The advantages of WFH that don’t turn into WTF moments. 

Being forced to slow down, yet still being productive. It’s the same reason I love rainy days: there’s no pressure to be anywhere. I sit at my laptop listening to the rain while I work; and slip in some radical self-care when I need it.

Less Hustle 

Fun Leaders Are Charismatic 

You’re Focusing on The Wrong ‘C’. 

If you want to be more confident, focus on charisma. Which is essentially the art of being influential, impactful, likeable and magnetic. 

The mad thing is many people think charisma is some kind of personality trait that you’re born with that you either ‘have’ (cue 007) or you don’t.

But Charisma is a SKILL and like any skill, can be mastered through practice. By leaving a positive impression on people and making them feel good about themselves which means you can influence and inspire people DRAMATICALLY, enhance your impact in meetings, negotiations and public speaking.

You don’t ever have to be a crazy confident hyped-up leader. Just be authentically rebellious. Being charismatic makes you super persuasive without being bossy or pushy by finding your voice and holding your space. And gives you that Executive Presence to lead with gravitas.

Always have a female leading in the room. Because merging assertiveness with intuition and balancing masculine drive and feminine wisdom always makes for better outcomes.

Radical Self-Care 

I love solitude. It was these quiet moments that saved my sanity and my soul when I was healing. It’s now a key part of my self-care practice.

Solitude isn’t isolation. It’s the space where your thoughts get a chance to breathe, your creativity blossoms and clarity bubbles up. And don’t just take my word for it; science backs this up. Studies show that just 15 minutes of quiet reflection can improve focus, reduce stress, and boost problem-solving skills.

In a world obsessed with busyness, carving out time to be—not just do—is actually pretty hard, but it’s critical for your mental fitness and performance.

Too many high achievers wear “busy” like a badge of honour. But guess what? It’s a myth that being busy makes you productive. Productive people are game-changers, not task-chasers. They get laser-focused on tasks that truly move the needle and delegate ditch or dump the rest. They are ruthless with their time and energy.

It’s not about withdrawing from others but about reconnecting with yourself. The better you understand yourself the more intentional you’ll be with your goals.

Consider this:

Bill Gates credits “Think Weeks“—dedicated time alone—as a secret to innovation.

The average person spends 4.8 hours a day on their phone. Imagine reclaiming even a fraction of that for deep thinking and moments of being.

High performers who prioritise quiet time report being more productive and feeling less overwhelmed.

Pro Tip: Block out time in your calendar for solitude. Start small—30 minutes a day; no distractions, no phones. Use it to reflect, journal, or just sit with your thoughts. Treat it as non-negotiable, like a doctor’s appointment.

When was the last time you truly listened to your soul?

Good Vibrations 

  • emotional intelligence 
  • getting vulnerable 
  • cultivating self-trust

Emotional Intelligence is THE most underrated leadership skill. If you can’t lead yourself, how are you going to lead others? 

How to manage our emotions so they don’t manage us

To raise your vibration you need to process your emotions. 

EQ is one of the 3 Pillars of Feminine Leadership inside my navigation model D.I.V.A.™ that helps you move through change in your life, career and the world, with more ease, grace and gumption.

By merging assertiveness with intuition, embracing the balance of masculine drive and feminine wisdom so you can move forward with strength and authenticity.

This isn’t a framework—it’s the DNA of happiness. EQ skills that turn tension into triumph for anyone navigating conflict whether in life, business or relationships.

Have a conscious conversation with yourself

Sit down and talk to yourself. Sit down and feel whatever there is to be felt. That’s how we heal. That’s how we get rid of pain. It’s not by brushing it under the rug. Pretending it’s not there because it’s going to come back like a boomerang.

When you negotiate with yourself, you build a bond with yourself, you create empathy for yourself. That results in you becoming more calm in conflict situations.  

When you see the suffering in yourself, that’s how you can connect with the suffering in others, and you don’t want to be the cause of it, because you know how much it hurts.

So by being conscious of our pain we become more empathetic. We become better people, allergic to conflict. Because why would you seek out conflict if, if it creates the suffering that you’ve already felt, you don’t want anybody else to feel it. This is how we create peace within ourselves and with others.

Emotional awareness helped me process my vulnerability when I was grieving when I went through burnout, got me through my identity crisis and helped navigate cultural pressures.  

It tested me, shaped me, and ultimately, empowered me to become an advocate for others facing similar journeys—especially for women—who, as we know, face unique vulnerabilities in finding their voice.

All that I do is carefully curated. Each intuitive hit, each inspired download is designed for maximum impact to help you live your most satisfying life. Delivered with a whole lotta of smarts, strategy and style. 

Takeaway 

How to find a better workstyle so you can have a better lifestyle starts here.

I’ve shown you how easy and fun slow living can be and how the effect of functioning at a higher vibration can impact your life. Now all you need to do is implement it. Let these words sink in and introduce this as your theme going into 2025. 

So you can dump complicated, loathsome strategies. Adopt this natural approach to work and keep burnout at bay.  

I hope this helps you make a BIG splash in 2025! And leaves an indelible mark on your leadership style from leading your teams to leading your kids. 

Here’s to slow living and good vibrations all the way!

So What Have You Asked Santa Baby For? To Be A Goal Digger

Sorrento Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

Unwrap the gift of adventure this  Christmas. Because why should life be boring? 

If you’re tired of feeling meh and ready to grow into your full potential, get in touch.

Want something a bit different this Christmas?

Would you rather:

A. Solve your deepest darkest problems

B. Fulfil your biggest dreams 

C. Buy a designer bag 

Wondering what to spend your Christmas bonus on? 

How about this year, we skip the gift sets and give yourself the gift of adventure? A gift that can be used time and time again, AND gets better the more times you use it.

Start the New Year with New Intentions with a VIP Experience⭐ that creates lasting change. 

Because…

  • Swag depreciates.
  • The thrill of unwrapping disappears in seconds. 
  • Shiny objects fade fast.

Instead, why not bet on yourself? You are the best investment you’ll ever make. 

Wondering whether to invest in the ⭐VIP Experience⭐? Use it to advance your life forward. I promise you will walk away with a notebook full of ideas and a heart full of dreams.

And it all starts with a Clarity Call value £197 the perfect way to treat yourself to an unforgettable experience.

🎁This is one gift you won’t be re-gifting.

The luxe gift that will always be remembered as the gift that changed everything and helped create a better life.

We’re talking compelling and creative goal setting so you stay the course. Goals that stick, not resolutions that fall away by February.

Because there are only two types of people in the world: those who find a way, and those who find an excuse. 

To ensure your intentions are right on track for the year ahead you’ll experience:

⚡️ My D.I.V.A. navigation model to help you move through change in your life, career & the world, with more ease.

⚡️  The C.A.R.E.™ framework which breaks down the 4 core areas of goal setting you need to get focused on to succeed and fulfil your potential. 

⚡️ AND…how to leverage the science of positive psychology to energise the success of everything you do. 

It’s a high-impact experience, tailored to YOU, with an industry expert. 

We’re talking bespoke strategies, and real breakthroughs that’ll set you up to absolutely smash your goals in 2025.

When we work together, it isn’t just your career or business that thrives, I help you access a level of freedom in all areas of your life.

💡Clarity Calls are 45-minute private calls with me. Together, we clarify exactly what you want, and what’s stopping you from living the life you imagine. So you can move forward with certainty. 

You’ll walk away with a 3-point action plan so you have something tangible to work with.

At the end of the call, I’ll share options for how I can help and whether coaching is the next right thing for you.

Apply Now To Be Considered For A Spot. Don’t wait until January to panic-buy a slot.    

Email me: hellokoser@lifelesscomplex.com.

How Not To Feel Like A Failure When You Don’t Hit A Goal: The Mountain I Didn’t Climb

Morocco Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

How do you manage your ego when a goal flops?

As high achievers, we’re always setting goals and smashing them. Going through life like a tick box exercise, collecting the symbolic trophies along the way, and when we don’t hit a goal, we’re usually harsh on ourselves.

At times like these, I fall back on the Nelson Mandela quote… 

“I never lose. I either win or I learn”.

The Goal

Traversing Morocco’s Atlas Mountains on a 7-day trek to summit Mount Toubkal. Did I climb it, no, was my ego bruised, yes.

The Wins

A great group of trekkers, guide and porters, lots of bonding and belly laughs.

Camping under the stars.

Delish wholesome food. 

Jaw-dropping scenery.

Passing Bedouin villages with local children handing out cherries.

The Learns

Keep that ego in check. 

I was surrounded by an experienced crew and fellow climbers who knew better than me. Let others who are wiser lead and learn from them. We all start out as novices before we become experts. 

At one point I was the slowest which made me feel sad (and triggered). It took me back to my school days and PE where I was always picked last…the slow coach who nobody wanted on their team.  

The Fears

First-time camper. I was slightly apprehensive about spending seven days surviving in the mountains, with no creature comforts.  

At one point it got a bit hairy, when I lost my footing! Hanging off the side of a mountain with my trekking pole wedged between some loose stones. The thought crossed my mind, had I been a bit too ambitious with my goal? Was it too big and insurmountable? There was no turning back now.

A Lesson In Humility

The food, the camps and the service we received at the sites along the way was phenomenal! The porters were absolute machines – not only did they pretty much run up the mountains (in sandals) carrying our bags, they then set up camp, made the most amazing meals, and if that’s not enough, when we arrived after a ‘tough day’ climbing they gave us the biggest cheer.

During the times we felt weary under the blazing sun, the cook (who was always last to leave camp) would run past smiling and waving (while carrying the kitchen equipment). Gave us the motivational kick we needed to keep going.

The Big Turnaround 

Two years later I completed a 12-day trek to Everest Base Camp. And reached the summit of Kala Pather 5634m. THIS is how you overcome hurdles, you come back stronger. There is no room for excuses. You just smash it out of the park the next time.

It’s such a great feeling when you achieve a goal. The people you meet, the places you visit, the memories you make along the way.

Guilt-free Emotions 

Your feelings are valid.

It’s ok to feel upset if you didn’t get the outcome you wanted…

…it’s ok to feel envy…

…it’s ok to feel disappointment.

If you’re hurting it’s because this thing matters to you, so give yourself permission to feel the feels. We do what we can to soothe ourselves. It’s our primal nature to protect and survive. So cut yourself some slack.

Owning Your Mental Real Estate

I know it’s hard to let go of things you’ve put a lot of energy into, but it’s part of your evolution. Nothing you’ve done in the past was a waste of time. It led you to this right-now moment.

Your failures will define you more than your successes ever will. Because of the person you become along the way.

Don’t go down the black hole of analysis paralysis. The what ifs. What if I did reach the summit? But I didn’t and the moment had passed. So why dwell on it? 

I’m not just another certified coach waving a piece of paper about, I’m the real deal with the war wounds to prove it. I get you. I am you.

This is why my mindset coaching is so powerful. We look at the obstacles that trip you up from reaching your goals using the 4-step C.A.R.E.™ framework. That shows you how to psychologically set yourself up for success and handle setbacks.    

Takeaway 

All of these things have taught me that it is not the failure itself that we fear, it is the embarrassment surrounding failure, the feelings of abandonment and ultimately “losing face”. I felt mortified telling my friends I didn’t make the summit.  

What mountains do you want to conquer in 2025? 

If you want me in your corner drop me an email hellokoser@lifelesscomplex.com.

The Art of Achieving. Chase The Feeling. Not The Goal.

Cotopaxi Ecuador - Koser Khaliq High Performance Career & Lifestyle Coach

Most people are stuck with their goals not because they’re missing a strategy, but because they’re clutching onto what they think they should be doing, instead of surrendering to what actually feels right.

The energy of restriction, of over-managing, of needing to control every single step. That’s the very thing keeping you from your goals.

And when it doesn’t feel good, it shows. You pour energy into doing more, and it still feels like you’re not moving the needle.

But what if you let go?

What if you trusted the energy behind your decisions to carry you forward? That trusting inner guidance is what draws the opportunities in.  

Here’s what I know:

✨ You can’t keep micromanaging your way to success and expect to feel fulfilled.


✨ You can’t keep hustling for results without honoring the energy that creates them.


✨ You can’t keep building something beautiful without letting go of what’s making it feel heavy.

Decide that the energy of being is also the energy of creating and manifesting.

Did you know that logic, what’s been proven or seen as “the” truth, doesn’t dictate your future results?

Intuition is made up of the instinctual knowledge you accumulate over the years. The deep layers of knowing, that are not always conscious. That ever happen to you? You know how to do stuff you didn’t realise you knew how to do?

What If Feelings *Are* Facts?

Feelings are tangible they make you take action yet we choose to ignore them and listen to our head only to regret it later. Your body always knows what’s right for you.

What if that nagging feeling you’ve got that you need to try something new, were actually a deep knowing, rather than a flighty whim?

What if everything you want right now is the right thing to want?

And, what if it all worked out?

What if pausing and listening to the silence within is the new luxury?

I manifest logic-defying results ALL the time. It’s not luck..it’s intentional.

  • I bend time.
  • Get quick turnarounds on bad situations.
  • Opportunities galore. 

Most of these things don’t make sense to the logical mind. Because logic didn’t generate the outcome. I don’t operate from external forces; I move from my own internal beat – my own energy, purpose and alignment. 

This is representative of so many things in life from the goals I’ve achieved to the dreams I’ve fulfilled.

If I were to ask you if you knew how to run a business, you might say no. But put a business in your hands, and you might prove otherwise.

We are so much wiser than we give ourselves credit for.

Maybe that is what “trusting yourself” really means: knowing that your lifetime of accumulated knowledge is worth something, and your instincts are actually learned truths, and whatever you feel about something isn’t just a feeling, but a fact.

If you’re an overthinker and a truster-of-all-things-outside-of-youthe⭐VIP Experience⭐ is where you strengthen your inner compass. Taking you from inspiration to action. Because inspiration’s sole purpose is to move you from dreaming to doing, can you now see how intuition is strategic? It’s the first and true step in goal-setting.

My most inspired goal was starting a business. It was so left field, bat sh*t crazy, because I didn’t think about it, I felt it and just ran with it. 

And what makes it even more crazy I received TWO job offers out of the blue the minute I decided I was going all in with my new venture. I could’ve chosen the familiar path and listened to logic, but I chose the unknown because of that indescribable feeling inside. You know? 

When was the last time you truly listened to your body? 

👉Journal prompt: If I wasn’t holding back at all and played to win, what would I do or how would I be?  

Then do it. Trust your move even if it seems small, silly, crazy or bold!

You’ve got to recognise your unicorn moments from your dangling carrots. You do this by looking at the energy behind the decision you made. Did the decision come from your head (fear, safety) or from your heart (inspired, aligned)? My example illustrates this beautifully.

Learn The Language Of Your Body

Give your brain a rest. It’s overworked.

Learning to listen? That’s your superpower. The most successful people aren’t the loudest. They’re the most attuned. Subtlety can be just as impactful as boldness.    

When you align with your energy, decisions feel clearer and you stop second-guessing. Your job is to TRUST the guidance you receive. Don’t focus on productivity, focus on feeling grounded. Intuition leads to momentum which creates flow that guides you to the next step.

Don’t complicate this. There is absolutely no need to try to understand if something is spiritual or strategic. Just move in FLOW.

The energy that creates worlds knows exactly what your needs and desires are.

Ask yourself WHY the download came, what’s the message?

Your soul has ONE purpose: to serve you for your highest good.  It does not compromise. And the more you talk about the things you want, the more the universe has a way of bringing them to your door at the right time.

If something you’ve been manifesting is opening up for you more quickly than you thought, and maybe you don’t feel ready yet, remember that it wouldn’t be available to you if you weren’t ready yet.

Intuition stretches your capacity for deep self trust. This means it’s highly teachable through holistic practices, practical exercises, honing your EQ skills, and implementing the 3 Pillars of Feminine Leadership I teach, inside the ⭐VIP Experience⭐.

What do you think would shift in your life if you finally let go of the pressure to do it all “right” and started leaning into the art of being — being you, being honest, being magnetic?

“Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom. Your ability to choose your battles will be fine-tuned to perfection. Your instinct for knowing what (and who) is worth your time, will grow and flourish. Prioritise the uniqueness that makes you you, and the invisible magnet that draws in other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.” – Judi Dench

If you have a desire that’s burning a hole in your heart reach out and let’s take your life to new heights. You weren’t put on this planet to suffer, you’re here to serve. Don’t ignore that calling (whatever it looks like). Email me at hellokoser@lifelesscomplex.com.